My childhood friend got married couple months ago. Amid the usual hectic administration requirements for a wedding, she found that her father’s name did not match with the name in her birth certificate. She was reportedly angry that the problem persisted.
It was not the first time she got angry with the discrepancy of her father’s name in documents. The non-problem happened simply because, as you might have expected, the father is not her biological father. Her biological father died when she was a child and her mother remarried with the man that she now believes to be her biological father.
I understand that the common practice in my hometown for adopted children or step children is to tell lies. They are led to believe that their guardians are biological parents. They may or may not be told the truth when they become adults. It’s completely optional.
My childhood friend’s case, however, is rather peculiar to me. We are the same age. When her mother remarried, I clearly remembered the process. As clear as day. I even remembered people were joking that this neighbor was going to marry a widow (calm down, SJW, it was pre-internet and pre-political correctness era). I remember running around playing games during the wedding.
If I can remember it, why this childhood friend can’t? Again, we are the same age. Even though she was told lies, how couldn’t she educate herself?
Because long before her wedding, she already ran into similar problems. When we were in elementary school, she went home crying because her father’s name in her school record was a name she couldn’t recognize. Each time I heard she got angry over the exact same problem, I could not believe that the thing was still going on.
I don’t want to go sci-fi but I think this is the case where human mind tricks us into believing what we want to believe because we can’t handle the truth. This childhood friend’s memory is simply creating a delusion that hijacks the objective reality.
Now can we just spare a moment and ask ourselves which objective realities that have been hijacked by our minds 😐